Indian culture is largely devoid of talk about love in marriage and other marital issues.
Divorce is often seen as a taboo and public shows of affection are frowned upon
and illegal to some extent. As a result of this, I think that Interpreter of
Maladies serves as a great discussion on the problems that can arise from
unsuccessful marriages as well as how they may be able to be fixed.
Many of the
relationships in the book are dysfunctional in some way. In many of the
relationships, love has been lost to some extent, or there is no communication
between the man and woman. In addition, one of the major stressing factors on
the relationships is the fact that many of the women came to America because
their husbands found jobs in the States. It is almost as if they are
dragged here by the prospect of a better life than in India, but without any
real purpose to fulfill other than to take care of and help the guy that they
have most likely only known briefly before getting married to and one who they
have probably not lived with for more than a few days. They are expected to
raise a family without any experience living with the man they are married to,
as well as to assimilate to society without really any introduction. This
sentiment exists very prominently in Mrs. Sen’s life, where she longs for India
and everything that comes along with it. The ruckus that India has where you
can call and all the neighbors will come running to gossip and the fresh fish
whose quality you can’t beat. This uneasiness with the relationship caused by
Mrs. Sen’s unwillingness to be in America would never be discussed in a public
setting in a traditional Indian setting. Interpreter of Maladies in this serves
as a discussion about what can happen when assimilation into another culture is
forced through marriage presumably with less love than ideal in this situation.
Another instance of the book serving as a discussion on marriage
in Indian culture happens in the story “Interpreter of Maladies”. The issue of
cheating on one’s husband would probably never come up in any discussion in a
traditional Indian household but this story serves as a look into how it is
dealt with. Ms. Das clearly struggles with the issue of whether to tell anyone
about the issue and eventually decides to confide in the tour guide and interpreter
Mr. Kapasi. We find that he also doesn’t really know what to do with the
information, but the story still deals with the issue of marital problems and
how to deal with them. The story presents confiding in someone else as a viable
solution for the problem of maintaining your sanity, and also provokes some
thought as to why one would keep it a secret for so long especially when she
has to raise the child who is a product of the infidelity.
Overall, Interpreter of Maladies serves a good venue for
discussion about infidelity and other problems in marriage which is a topic
rarely discussed in traditional Indian culture. The issue of unwillingness to
fully assimilate to different cultures as a product of marriage is explored
fairly thoroughly as well as the issue of how to deal with infidelity. The book
sparks thought about topics that aren’t really ever brought up in Indian culture.
You point out that divorce is often taboo in Indian culture, which is a fact I didn't know. If Indian culture refrains from talk about marital issues, that definitely clears up a lot of my lingering questions from "Interpreter of Maladies". Reading about any culture that differs from mine is always a learning experience, often one that leaves me with many questions. I especially found it interesting when Varun mentioned in class that his parents had an arranged marriage. Due to my ignorance, I didn't even think arranged marriages still occurred. "Interpreter of Maladies" (and our class discussions) helped to open me to more of Indian culture, which was a really cool experience.
ReplyDeleteThe Ms. Sen case is particularly interesting for me. As we discussed in class, her husband has seemingly seamlessly fit into their new life in America. He has a job, friends/coworkers, drives, etc. Ms. Sen struggles to adapt to the new lifestyle, often finding herself longing for the fresh fish in Calcutta, the familial environment of neighborhoods, and a feeling of purpose or belonging. Thus, we see a relatively unbalanced scenario. Ms. Sen has been dragged into an unpleasant situation by her husband, with whom she barely even gets along with.
ReplyDeleteI thought that the way Infidelity was addressed in this novel was really interesting. I wouldn't say that it condoned it but it was interesting to see how it doesn't really condemn it either. In Sexy, Miranda and Dev have their affair, and while it eventually ends nothing bad ever came out of it. It just kinda ended, leaving both of them to return to their lives having had one more lover. This, if anything, seems like a good thing.
ReplyDeleteMrs. Sen's story in particular shows that issues with marriage in traditional Indian culture (transplanted to America) often affect the women much differently than the men. Back in Calcutta, Mrs. Sen would likely have a community of women friends and relatives that she'd be a part of (we might imagine something like the "we" that narrates "Bibi Haldar"). In the U.S., she has no such community, and that has a LOT to do with her marital dissatisfaction (it's not just marital, but the fact that she's followed her husband to this cold, confusing place has a lot to do with the tension between them). She needs something like the makeshift expatriate/immigrant "community" Mr. Pirzada finds when he travels alone to America, but she seems to know no other Indian women in her area.
ReplyDeleteI found your point about the wives in these situations being "dragged to America" by the promise of a better life, really interesting. I think that this is definitely the case in stories like "Mrs. Sen's," where Mrs. Sen is feeling very isolated and lonely and spends most of her time cooking for Mr. Sen. Also the issue of not knowing your husband as a result of an arranged marriage is the main point in "the Third and Final Continent."
ReplyDeletePranav, you really drove home the "point" of Lahiri's stories for me ("point" in quotations because there are probably lots of other things Lahiri's trying to show us that I'm not catching). It really shows us how hard immigration really is. Mrs. Sen does really feel alone with only a little kiddo to talk to and some pots and pans to cook, while Mrs. Daz is a bit more outgoing but has a secret to bare.
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